Relationship Stress After Having A Baby
Having a baby is one of the biggest life changes that you will experience.
These tips should help to prepare you for parenthood and deal with new baby stress.
Sure, you are not the first person to have a baby, but becoming a parent is a major life milestone for all.
Having a baby is probably one of the most life-changing events you will ever experience.
During pregnancy, your priorities, values, and expectations can changes, sometimes dramatically.
This change may take others by surprise, including your family, partner, employer, and friends.
Understand that this is a normal part of making the transition to parenting, and will likely come with a wide range of emotions, from excitement and joy to ambivalence and fear.
It’s hard to know exactly how you’ll feel once your baby arrives.
So we’ve compiled some helpful tips to help you prepare for that day.
Preparing for a Baby Tips.
Make a plan.
Having a baby especially your first baby can feel like a huge leap into the unknown.
It’s hard to predict all the ways your life will change, but one thing’s for certain—your life will change.
The sense of uncertainty from having a baby can cause feelings of anxiety and stress.
To ease some of that new baby stress, having a parenting checklist in place well before the baby comes will help make the most of your baby’s first year.
Develop a budget, pay off debt, and set aside 3 to 6 months of expenses, if possible, so you have a financial cushion.
Talk with your employer about if and when you will return to work.
It’s important to prepare for a change in managing your work-life balance.
What will your daily responsibilities look like?
Is your employer open to a flexible schedule?
Talk with your partner about household tasks and develop a schedule for completing those tasks, such as grocery shopping, laundry, or housecleaning.
Having a plan can reduce many of your difficulties and worries, giving you a sense of control and competence.
Cut yourself some slack.
Most first-timers worry about their ability to parent effectively, but here’s a little secret: you are going to make some parenting mistakes.
You are not going to be a perfect parent, because the perfect parent does not exist. Fortunately, children don’t need perfect parents.
They need committed and loving parents who are trying to do their best.
Parents who acknowledge when they have messed up and keep on trying.
Parenting is a learning curve—sometimes a steep one—and it’s okay if you don’t have it all figured out.
Babies are remarkably resilient and your baby will be just fine.
Take care of yourself while pregnant.
You’ll probably receive plenty of unsolicited pregnancy advice throughout your pregnancy in regards to things that worked for your friends or coworkers.
But don’t forget the importance of taking care of yourself amidst all of that advice.
During pregnancy, your body is working overtime; physical fatigue can worsen the symptoms of emotional overload.
Spend at least a few minutes every day to nurture yourself.
Take a quick nap, go for a walk, try yoga or meditation, stock up on healthy snacks, or get a prenatal massage.
Go to bed early and try to maintain a consistent schedule.
You will need both physical and emotional reserves to cope with the challenges of labor and the first few weeks of parenting.
Look at the pregnancy as a time of preparation for parenting.
Manage relationship stress.
The changes of pregnancy and parenthood can cause relationship stress as you try to sort out your new life and roles.
Be patient with yourself and your partner.
Spend time together and talk honestly about your hopes and fears.
Accept those inevitable differences in temperament and priorities, which often become more obvious as you prepare for parenting.
Use your support network.
It’s a natural inclination to focus inward as you prepare for childbirth, and you might feel too tired after a long day to socialize.
But don’t forego the company of friends entirely.
Your family and friends can be a source of nurturing support, both now and after the baby arrives.
Too tired at night to get together?
What about a weekend brunch or a Saturday afternoon movie?
Maintain relationships and be sure to ask for help as the big day draws near.
Pregnancy is a time of transition and change.
Use this time to articulate and address any fears you have, build a strong support network, and establish a predictable, stable lifestyle for your family.
Set Yourself for Parental Leave
On this episode of the Work-Life Equation how to navigate parental leave.
From the pre-leave to, working plus parenting can seem impossible.
But Karen Rubin, managing director of employee coaching company Talking Talent has coached many employees on successfully navigating this important time.
How to make the announcement, through the busy months leading up to taking leave, and how to reclaim your career when you come back.
Of course, flexibility is important too.
During the first few weeks after your baby comes.
Sschedules will probably go out of the window as you adjust to your new baby.
Having those schedules in place, though, will help you return to a comfortable routine more quickly.